What's wrong with him? questions

[hellziggy]

There is a girl here at work who is single and has been out in the wonderful world of first dates.
Each new guy she meets ends up making her add a new question to the list of questions to screen out the ones that just won't work. The one she has been talking to lately (but hasn't met yet) has passed all the questions so far so we are trying to figure out what "the deal breaker" question that she just hasn't thought of yet is.
Some examples of previous deal breakers that have been added are: "Are you hygenically inclined?" and "Have you ever been in prison for crystal meth?"

So, oh LJ brain of mine. What are some questions she needs to ask this boy?

Comments

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

My "deal breaker" question is "Are you a practicing Christian?" So far it's weeded out everybody for eight years. wheee.

I actually inveted "The Test", not so much as a real test, but just to hit on various possible common interests that have been important in other friendships of mine.

..okay, I just dug it up and it's completely ridiculous. But I have had friends take it and do amazingly well. One friend (married) who missed only two quetions said I would have to find a way to eliminate Virgos.. so I did. Anyway, here's a sample: (p.s. I can't even remember the answers to most of these. I I think I created it in 1999.)

Answer at least three of the following four questions:

1. Explain one aspect of the Theory of Relativity.

2. What is an “event horizon”?

3. What is “black hole singularity”?

4. How did the presumed discovery of life on Mars affected NASA’s
plans for space exploration in 1996?

Answer at least three of the following four questions:

1. In which Shakespearean play are there three witches?

2. In which Shakespearean play is there a character named Desdemona?

3. Quote one line from Hamlet.

4. What line follows “Come live with me and be my love...”?

Answer at least ______ of the following __________ questions:

1. State one of the laws of thermodynamics.

2. Name ten of the twelve astrological signs.

3. Name one from at least eight of the following eleven categories
(duplicates may be considered):

Classical composer -
Song or lyric writer before 1950 -
Big Band leader -
50’s rock group/singer -
“Classic” rock group/singer -
“Hard” rock group/singer -
Heavy metal group -
Alternative group/singer -
World beat/Reggae group/singer -
Country group/singer -
Christian/Gospel group/singer -

4. Name ten books from the Bible.


8. List at least one name in the thesaurus publishing filed.


9. What is Libertarianism?


11. What is the Three Color Problem in cartography (also sometimes called the Four Color Problem)?


16. Name two types of filovirus, or describe what a filovirus is.


17. In your job, three people want to see you on the same day at the same time. They are: your boss; a long time customer in good standing; a great prospective customer you have been pursuing for months. You can only meet with one, which do you choose?


18. What is the difference between a subdural hematoma and a subdermal
hematoma?


23. What movie does the line “What, African or European?” come from?

25. Give two words that rhyme with “wither”.

Then there's a whole big list of movies with a scale indicating to what degree you like them.

I realize this doesn't help your friend much.... well, except for my first question.. that is, what beliefs does she hold so dear that she couldn't imagine being with someone who doesn't share them... loves animals, wants children, die-hard democrat, vegan, family-before-everything, plans for retirement..... seriously, if there is something that really proved to be a huge emotional issue in the past, that needs to be found out early. Religion is huge for me... so I've stopped letting myself get "interested" first, and then look for reasons why his lack of something I value is "okay in this case". Letting yourself get emotionally or physically invested before asking the tough questions just leads to heartache and lost time. I'm 42. I don't need more friends. I have friends. I don't need "to have fun". I have fun. Right now anyone who is disqualified as potential husband material is not acceptable as "date" material. Dating is the interview process for the position of spouse.

This, of course, explains why I am still single. I eliminate most men with my deal breakers and they eliminate me once they find out that I think all dating should be a prelude to marriage and nothing else.

*looks around*

But I'm happy. I have good life. I have great friends. So it's hard to imagine that I'm doing anything wrong. I guess I'll keep doing what I'm doing.

My very best wishes to your friend.

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

My "deal breaker" question is "Are you a practicing Christian?"

My oldest niece's #2 son is named Christian. Does that get me past the deal breaker question? [innocent smile]

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

If you and Christian are in a band that rehearses together, you might have an argument for a loophole.

But probably not.

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

Drat and double drat!

Oh, what the heck...triple drat!

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Language, young man!

[dibsy.livejournal.com]

Hey! We have the same deal breaker question!

:-P

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

~giggling~

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

You're not allowed to have deal breaker questions anymore, dude.

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

~wiping ... Diet ... Coke_®... off ... monitor~

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

aahh, haven't manage that in a while.!

*takes bow*

[dibsy.livejournal.com]

So that's what Nicky was so annoyed about.

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

Or another follow up question for the practicing Christian question (assuming from reading this post that you were looking for one who was one, rather than weeding out only practicing Christians (as opposed to practicing Jews, Muslims, etc...) you could also ask if they grew up in a family of practicing Christians. I can tell you from experience that made a large difference in my marriage. We both have our own religious beliefs, honestly, but we both grew up with families very active in Christian churches, and once we were married and had a kid, etc... my husband, who might not have done so otherwise, found he really enjoyed being active in church again. It's just something to think about - sometimes a single man will revert to his own family's values once he is no longer single, being apart of his own family.

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

That's a very valid point, thank you. Now that you say that, I have seen that happen, and the marriage it happened in is one of my highest role models today.

Thank you, I will add that to my list of considerations!

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

The longer I am married, the more I realize how much I married my husband's whole family, not just him. *hee* And vice versa! (Poor man... lol)

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Oh! And family! That's hugely important. I've.. er.. dodged a couple families in my dating past. And there's one ex-future-mother-in-law that I still miss terribly. Getting along with each others' families is... maybe not mandatory.. but it makes everything so much easier.

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Since we're on the subject of friends and such, I'd like to add you to my friends list if that's okay with you.

[elaby.livejournal.com]

What line follows “Come live with me and be my love...”?

Does it disqualify me if I sing it in kind of a 40's swing sort of way a la Ian McKellen's Richard III?

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

No. But you are disqualified by virtue of being married, and by my own personal circuitry.
For the record, though, the "kind of a 40's swing sort of way a la Ian McKellen's Richard III" thing would actually get you more points.

[caitirin.livejournal.com]

*GIGGLES*

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Oh you're just gloating.

[elaby.livejournal.com]

XD Yay! Well, I'm happily married, so it's moot anyway, but I thought the RIII thing was kind of funny ^_^

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Indeed!

[hellziggy.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a pretty good philosophy!

And dang, some of those questions are hard! I don't think I'd do well enough to date you! :)

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, you'd have aced the questions about books and authors!

[hellziggy.livejournal.com]

Actually, the question I thought was the easiest was the filovirus one... Doesn't everyone have freakish amounts of knowledge about Ebola & Marburg? Can't everyone name the strain of Ebola that actually broke out in the U.S.? (Ebola Reston, BTW)

*Looks around*

What?