What's wrong with him? questions

[hellziggy]

There is a girl here at work who is single and has been out in the wonderful world of first dates.
Each new guy she meets ends up making her add a new question to the list of questions to screen out the ones that just won't work. The one she has been talking to lately (but hasn't met yet) has passed all the questions so far so we are trying to figure out what "the deal breaker" question that she just hasn't thought of yet is.
Some examples of previous deal breakers that have been added are: "Are you hygenically inclined?" and "Have you ever been in prison for crystal meth?"

So, oh LJ brain of mine. What are some questions she needs to ask this boy?

Comments

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

What the heck? Typo. Punctuation-o.

I'm home sick today and I'm on meds. Okay, it's only antibiotics, but clearly I'm delirious and should be exempted from coherent posting.

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

Or another follow up question for the practicing Christian question (assuming from reading this post that you were looking for one who was one, rather than weeding out only practicing Christians (as opposed to practicing Jews, Muslims, etc...) you could also ask if they grew up in a family of practicing Christians. I can tell you from experience that made a large difference in my marriage. We both have our own religious beliefs, honestly, but we both grew up with families very active in Christian churches, and once we were married and had a kid, etc... my husband, who might not have done so otherwise, found he really enjoyed being active in church again. It's just something to think about - sometimes a single man will revert to his own family's values once he is no longer single, being apart of his own family.

[elaby.livejournal.com]

What line follows “Come live with me and be my love...”?

Does it disqualify me if I sing it in kind of a 40's swing sort of way a la Ian McKellen's Richard III?

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Gomez! You spoke..... uh... a bunch of stuff...!

Re: Try to determine how much thought has gone into the answer before the first date.

[caitirin.livejournal.com]

That is a fantastic question to ask XD

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

Heh. You are the master!

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

Fret not, mademoiselle. Post away!

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

I have to laugh since a whole bunch of our in common LJ friends were my husband's friends first! lol I know what you mean, though. I cherish my pre-oed_1 friendships. They are SO important. They become even more important the older you get, I think.

[anonymous-greg.livejournal.com]

I was saving this one for last:

Rien et rien de double !
Ah, diable le rien de triple... !

Re: Try to determine how much thought has gone into the answer before the first date.

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

And if they don't laugh... RUN!

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

That's a very valid point, thank you. Now that you say that, I have seen that happen, and the marriage it happened in is one of my highest role models today.

Thank you, I will add that to my list of considerations!

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

No. But you are disqualified by virtue of being married, and by my own personal circuitry.
For the record, though, the "kind of a 40's swing sort of way a la Ian McKellen's Richard III" thing would actually get you more points.

[freyjakj.livejournal.com]

The longer I am married, the more I realize how much I married my husband's whole family, not just him. *hee* And vice versa! (Poor man... lol)

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

ooh!

(Poor hellziggy. She leaves her LJ unattended for while and look what happens.)

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Oh! And family! That's hugely important. I've.. er.. dodged a couple families in my dating past. And there's one ex-future-mother-in-law that I still miss terribly. Getting along with each others' families is... maybe not mandatory.. but it makes everything so much easier.

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Since we're on the subject of friends and such, I'd like to add you to my friends list if that's okay with you.

[akdar.livejournal.com]

So being the practical minded sort I start by thinking of basic questions:

So what do you do for a living? You want them to have a job of some sort.

Do you enjoy your work? Look for whether it is just a job for them or a career that they have a passion and aptitude for. Also look for the overzealous worker type to find someone that matches what you want.

So where do you live? You want to make sure they're not 40 years old and still living at home. Or you want to make sure they're not living down on say Lake and Hennipen or something. Vice versa, if they have a moderate job, you want to make sure they're not living extravagant as that might indicate that they live beyond their means and don't know how to manage their money. This would also wiggle into their financial status. Getting hooked up with someone with massive debt isn't going to be a fun experience.

I know standard wisdom is that you shouldn't talk about past relationships early on, but find out why they are single. If they are in our age bracket, there is a story in there of some sort that may give indications of their personality. Are they divorced, widowed, always been single? Any of those will give you material to make a judgment off of. So questions like:
Have you ever been married?
What was your longest relationship?
Do you have any kids?
What was your last relationship like and how long ago was it?

Medical conditions are also usually on the do not talk about list but can provide good information. Severe food allergies, hypochondriacs, disabilities, chronic disease. These are all things that could influence whether your would be happy with them or not.
Do you have allergies?
Don't you hate getting sick? (fishing to see if they start bitching about it a lot)
Any food we should avoid for dinner?

After you have those biggies out of the way, then I'd start looking at the shared interest type questions. To me, they could share every interest I have thinking computer gaming and reading are great, but if they can't hold a job, still live with their parents, constantly seem to be "sick", and can't eat anything except water and lettuce they just aren't a good match. :P

[caitirin.livejournal.com]

*GIGGLES*

[elaby.livejournal.com]

XD Yay! Well, I'm happily married, so it's moot anyway, but I thought the RIII thing was kind of funny ^_^

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Oh you're just gloating.

[boliviafang.livejournal.com]

Indeed!

[caitirin.livejournal.com]

Yeah... maybe... but she's just that amazing!

Well, so and so was a bitch, and before her such and such was just nuts, before her was a harpie...

[mle292.livejournal.com]

but find out why they are single. If they are in our age bracket, there is a story in there of some sort that may give indications of their personality.

Definitely. It might not be a "first date" question, but it had better be one before anything gets serious.

Avoid anyone who has dozens of former sig. o.s that are all not complex enough to be categorized outside of their mental deficiencies. Either he's telling the truth and he has a "thing" for crazy people, or he was the problem.

[shrique.livejournal.com]

Shhh, don't tell anyone but I like my in laws better than my own parents.

(chuckle)