What's wrong with him? questions

[hellziggy]

There is a girl here at work who is single and has been out in the wonderful world of first dates.
Each new guy she meets ends up making her add a new question to the list of questions to screen out the ones that just won't work. The one she has been talking to lately (but hasn't met yet) has passed all the questions so far so we are trying to figure out what "the deal breaker" question that she just hasn't thought of yet is.
Some examples of previous deal breakers that have been added are: "Are you hygenically inclined?" and "Have you ever been in prison for crystal meth?"

So, oh LJ brain of mine. What are some questions she needs to ask this boy?

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[lexinatrix.livejournal.com]

I shall refrain from ranting about how oftentimes people on the dating scene limit the where clause in their select statement so as to return near-zero results.

The best single question I've found that yields the most informative results: What was the last book you read?

I got this question from eHarmony, when James and I signed up just to take the personality test. I would judge every profile I was presented based on the book question alone. It gave me insight into whether the guy had a curious mind, whether he liked to learn, what topics interested him, and most importantly whether he understood the value of books at all.

Responses that earned a veto:
"I don't read books."
"I read a lot for work, so I don't do it in my spare time." (said by a lawyer)
"I only read the paper/my favorite magazine."
"I haven't been able to get through a book since high school/college."

The response that stuck with me (even now, years later) was the guy who could not only name the book, but name the author and give a synopsis of the story. (It was called "Reeling in Russia" about a fly fisherman's travels in Russia... I forget the author.)

If I'd been single, I woulda gone for at least one date with that guy.

[lexinatrix.livejournal.com]

I should make it clear the SPIRIT of my question comes from a fundamentally held value of mine: books and lifelong learning are important to me.

So, while your friend could use my question about books - it is really only testing for the respondant's attitude about what I value.

She should think about the qualities she values in a companion, then form her own questions to test for those qualities.

For example: wiredferret's question would NOT be a deal-breaker for me... but it is for her.

[dibsy.livejournal.com]

That's my question. Well, that or favourite book.

[kniblet.livejournal.com]

Hey! You hated my favourite book!

[hellziggy.livejournal.com]

Oooh. Good question! Responses to that would definitely tell you a lot about a person.